I\u2019ve now had a few days to reflect on the events of Ash Wednesday. Apparently for lent I\u2019ll be giving up Amy. <\/p>\n
Wednesday night we had two short conversations (she was calling from work). She has been grappling with feelings that she isn\u2019t in love with me for a month or two. Obviously I\u2019m not inside her head and I don\u2019t know how she truly feels \u2013 but I think a lot of outside factors are influencing her decisions and feelings at the moment. Maybe she knows that. Maybe not. Thursday night I sent her an email with a copy of some text from an email she sent me a year ago. In that email she was professing how in love with me she was. I also said that we should take a break because she needs to have some space and figure out some things for herself because I find it hard to believe that the Amy from last year isn\u2019t buried deep down in there somewhere. <\/p>\n
Wednesday night I did not sleep. Thursday night I slept about four hours, and Friday night about five. I also haven\u2019t been able to eat. I force myself (through great struggle) to eat my breakfast and lunch at work, but when I get home I can\u2019t muster to eat more than a banana for dinner.<\/p>\n
She wrote me back Friday morning stating that she would like to go on a break where we don\u2019t see or talk to each other. She said she has to sort through many things before we talk about anything.<\/p>\n
My eyes have been opened. I realized that throughout the entire relationship I took her for granted. Early on her feelings were stronger for me than mine for her. My super-ego just assumed she\u2019d feel this way forever. In 2005 Amy had some major personal problems that she had to work through. I tried to be there for her, but could have helped more. Eventually, in December, she felt confident enough to take on a full-time job. Unfortunately, this job wreaked havoc with our schedules. Another personal problem which I can\u2019t really go into detail about caused her to lose attraction to me and just be cold in general. I wasn\u2019t understanding with her at all. I would bug her constantly about when we\u2019re going to get together and when our problems would go away.<\/p>\n
In the last few weeks dealing with my needs became too much for her and she tried to avoid me. That is why she hadn\u2019t come to my apartment since early February.<\/p>\n
I now realize that I\u2019ve treated the whole situation very poorly. I focused on how my needs weren\u2019t being met instead of asking about hers. I also started to think of things I\u2019ve done and said in the past few months that were extremely hurtful. To be fair to myself I have been under a lot of stress at work in the past few months. I should not have taken it out on her though.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m now stuck in limbo. I still love her and want to be with her, but I have to also try to live with the idea that I may not be with her ever again.<\/p>\n
More importantly there is a huge void in my life with her gone. We would talk every day. Now I feel very alone because nobody is around to cheer me up or make me laugh about all the little things. Work is even harder as during the times when I didn\u2019t have so much to do I\u2019d be emailing her back and forth all day. Now I sit and stare at my monitor feeling like I have no reason to live.<\/p>\n
I was so engrossed in this girl that I really can\u2019t find other girls attractive. I spent my days pining for the next time I\u2019d see her. Now that may never happen so I feel like I have no future. Realistically I know this must just be the depression of the moment and people can move on if they have to\u2026however, I can\u2019t start moving on if there is still a chance that I could have this girl in my life.<\/p>\n
The next few weeks (or months\u2026she didn\u2019t specify when we\u2019d speak again) are going to be extremely hard for me. I hope y\u2019all don\u2019t get too annoyed by my emotional ramblings. Then again, as you all know, I normally post pessimistic thoughts on here, so this is a change at least.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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