So here we are. One week out into the wilderness. \u201cover the bridge and into the woods, where did I go?\u201d as My Morning Jacket would say. Or more precisely \u201cI\u2019m not here, this isn\u2019t happening\u201d as Michael Stipe advised Thom York to tell himself when he was going through similar experiences.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve talked to pretty much everyone in my life that cares about me (and some that probably don\u2019t) in varying degrees about my dilemma. Everyone seems to have different ideas. One friend told me to go to her house and stand outside all night until she agrees to talk. Since I\u2019ve never been arrested, and I don\u2019t intend to start now, I didn\u2019t take their advice. Other people have said that a lot of couples go through this on purpose just to make sure they really love each other before thinking about the \u201cnext step.\u201d And other people tell me to just not waste my time with someone that can\u2019t make up her mind (or even be nice enough to talk with me about it). I\u2019ve adopted a philosophy I think that encompasses all of this. I\u2019ll start dealing with the fact that it may be over. At the same time I\u2019ll keep the door open for her, and I\u2019ll also contact her if I don\u2019t hear from her within a month.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve even had contact with one of her friends and two members of her immediate family. While the results of those contacts are not necessarily good \u2013 they could be worse. The consensus from those that are actually currently talking to her seems to be that I should just be patient and let her work things out for herself. It is implied that perhaps our relationship hasn\u2019t ended, but without hearing that from her \u2013 I\u2019m not going to read too much into anything anybody says. I spoke with her father and we agreed to meet on the 18th. I\u2019m assuming he probably has more web work for me to do, but also wants to talk about the developments with his daughter. The first thing I did last week was write letters to her parents. This seems to have smoothed things over, at least with her father. <\/p>\n
I know now that the likely #1 cause for all of this is that I had become co-dependent on her just as she was gaining back her own independence. She must have felt like I was suffocating her individuality rather than letting her grow into her new responsibilities at her job (and beating the other personal problems in her life). I\u2019m assuming she needs that space now to gain her independence and at the same time teach me to stop being co-dependant on her. No woman wants to be with half a man. <\/p>\n
As I wrote before when this wave broke I wasn\u2019t able to eat. I still don\u2019t have a big appetite. However, now I can only eat jello and pudding. I got my brackets put on Tuesday. They put spacers in-between my molars so they can put bands on them later (on the 21st). The spacers are separating the bone in-between my molars \u2013 so I can\u2019t chew anything without pain. Even canned peaches give me trouble.<\/p>\n
Just more pain though, getting used to \u201cthe suck\u201d at this point.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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