{"id":736,"date":"2009-02-02T09:47:28","date_gmt":"2009-02-02T17:47:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.andrewlorenzlong.com\/?p=736"},"modified":"2009-07-16T07:26:41","modified_gmt":"2009-07-16T15:26:41","slug":"strange-things-are-afoot-at-the-circle-of-f","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.andrewlorenzlong.com\/?p=736","title":{"rendered":"Strange things are afoot at the circle of F"},"content":{"rendered":"
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At 8:40am this morning I received a very interesting email. In between organizing my goals at work for this week I checked out my gmail and saw the email you see above. Now, I’ve seen these before – they are the templated automatic emails facebook lets you send to non-facebook users you have email addresses for (facebook will search your email contacts for users and non-users and let you add them or invite them to facebook).\u00a0 The strange thing here was “Amy Frank.”\u00a0\u00a0 Amy Frank?\u00a0 Who the hell is Amy Frank?\u00a0 I know an Amy Sloan who used to be Amy Foose…\u00a0 I know an Amy Wong, I know an Amie Dang, but “Amy Frank?”<\/p>\n

My answer came from clicking the “more info”\u00a0 data (which I’ve again minimized here).\u00a0 This showed the email account connected to the facebook account (keep in mind my office, like most, blocks facebook, so actually clicking through on the link was not an option).\u00a0 The email address told me exactly who it was.\u00a0 A woman with a real (like a lot of people she uses her middle name as her first name) first name that I’ve never heard connected to another human being on the planet.\u00a0 My ex-girlfriend.\u00a0 No, not the one that found and emailed me on a dating site last week, but the one before her.\u00a0<\/p>\n

This brought up a bunch of interesting questions.\u00a0 #1, “Frank?”\u00a0 – I’m going to assume that she married some guy with a last name of Frank, probably safe to also assume this guy is a white guy.\u00a0 #2 Did she just hit “select all” when she ran the email scan on facebook, and thus doesn’t actually know that she emailed her ex-boyfriend her new name and information (and whatever else is in her account)?\u00a0 #3 If she did knowingly send it to me, what is her motivation after almost three years of zero contact?\u00a0 The last contact we had was an email from her on April 13th 2006 in which she told me I was a bad boyfriend and she deserved better – and was already seeing some guy at her (new) job.<\/p>\n

One thing is certain – she wasn’t specifically looking for me by\u00a0name\u00a0– as she would have found me and tried to add me directly.\u00a0 This method means she simply searched for my email address – and I use a different email address when registering for these sites so people (exactly like this) can’t find me as easily.\u00a0 She has my gmail address -but not my “other” email- thus facebook didn’t find me when it did the search.<\/p>\n

Now the question is – what do I do about this?\u00a0 Nothing?\u00a0 I’ve probably already wasted more energy than I should just by posting about it.\u00a0 Technically I barely use Facebook at all anymore (it was really more Beverly’s thing the whole time and so I was using it to be a bigger part of her universe); a cursory glance would probably lead people to believe that I’m still dating Beverly since neither of us have taken down any of our photos.\u00a0 As I mentioned, she contacted me on a dating site a few weeks ago.\u00a0 I won’t go into greater detail about that – but it made me wonder if she’d take down her photos and\/or de”tag” herself from mine whenever she adds her new boyfriend\/dates to her facebook account (she collects facebook “friends” like Donald Trump collects dollars).\u00a0 (and she will surely meet someone soon – the male:female ratio on the site is about 10:1 and believe me the female selection on THAT\u00a0particular site\u00a0is seriously lacking, so she’ll be in demand I’m sure) I don’t really care either way – but this email this morning made me think about all that stuff again and more.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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