Amy called me tonight and said she just wants to be friends.
She said she has felt this way since around December. She said she needs to concentrate on her career right now, and I wasn’t enough of a “gentleman” in our time together.
She said we should take a month’s “break” and see what happens.
This all came as quite a shock to me you can be sure, and I feel physically ill at the moment. She had me at the point where I was starting to like the idea of spending the rest of my life with her. I was definetly in love. I know I don’t usually say mushy stuff like that publicly, but all of you that knew me well knew that I was really really happy with her. I guess the feeling wasn’t mutual.
Now nothing.
I feel very numb.
and very very alone.
Your reaction is normal and expected. Anyone who tells you “I know how you feel” is full of crap. The important thing is to realize that this will pass away. There are alot of “code” words in what Amy said: “being on break”-see”friends” ; “just wants to be friends”-see “when Harry met Sally” and 5000 other sitcoms. “not enough of a gentleman”- willing to use any silly excuse to blame you for my problems. “concentrate on my career”- and that would be? and how does Andrew change that?—–but then—–this is from a bitter old redneck from uncoolville.
Thanks dad.
I know that this will pass eventually…but it really sucks that things keep ending up like this. I keep helping girls when they need help and being their crutch. Once they can stand on their own two feet they don’t need me anymore and conveniently forget about all the things I’ve done for them.
I didn’t sleep a wink last night. I felt like I was going to have a heart attack.
Not being able to sleep…..crushing weight on your chest….desire to scream”what tha f***”….this is why some guys can’t break the social programming and let it go. They end up as “stalkers” and “abusers” because they think they can “fix” the problem. Females are biologically programed to act a certain way–and believe me–it not to think of the male first. Their purpose is to have offspring and provide a safe enviroment for them. If this means killing and eating the male–no problem.
Anyway…..this all smacks of control issues. Will the “break” be total or will you be expected to check in on command? Why a month—-why not 23 1/2 days? Once you jump thru the hoop they keep elevating the hoop (and then they set it on fire). Its not called the war of the sexes for nothing. What’s the passing score for this test? Pain goes away–castration lasts forever. Semper fi.
The break will be an unspecified amount of time, but probably a month. During that time we won’t see each other or talk to each other. I don’t really see this as a hoop, because one or both of us could come through on the other side not wanting to get back together. I have a lot of thinking to do in the meantime.